I’ve been thinking a lot lately about girls, young women and older women who are single and desire love. At 51 years of age I have discovered there’s a right way and a wrong way to find that love we so desire. Unfortunately in my life I took a lot of wrong turns and did a lot of the wrong things in search of it. And look where it got me, I’m single and praying for a good Christian man after three divorces. If you are like myself and have already indulged into sexual relations, just know it’s not to late to repent, turn from it and be made new. I am pure in Gods eyes and you can be too!
Satan will use your weakness to temp you as long as you let your flesh control you. But once you ask God into your life it becomes temptation or a test. If you pass the test there is promotion to the next level but if you fail it you will have to repeat that test again . God uses test to help us grow and trust me I failed several times. But God!!
***1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Ladies while we are still out in the world we see no wrong with the things that we do. From laying on the couch snuggling, having sex, sleeping around with multiple partners, getting drunk and/ or high partying it up, living the life; what have we got to lose!!?? We have everything to lose!!
We lose our self-respect, the respect of others, our self-esteem, a good name, etc and we are left with emotional and mental scars. We become known as a tramp, slut or whore. When you grow up and have a daughter of your own do you want her to live the life that you’re living?
I get it! I totally understand for I wanted someone to love me so badly that I gave in to the flesh more times than I care to count. But ladies keep yourself for your husband and let your marriage night be a night of special memories! Give your husband the special gift of an untainted you! I sure wish I had waited for the man that God had chosen for me! But you see I was looking at the outside of the man and not at the heart, and I missed out on a very good man in my life, he was my best friend. If I had waited and kept myself my life today would have been so different!
When you’re out in the world and single once you ever give yourself to one man it becomes easier to give yourself to another, then another and another. And every time you give yourself away you give a piece of your heart away too. I get it you do it because you think they love you and that you love them, but the truth is if you really love one another you will wait. True Love Waits!
Believe me guys talk, and then it becomes a game between them to see who is the next one to score. Ladies be no one’s game, please keep yourself pure! And do not try to hold on to someone who is disrespectful to you or to your parents! Is this really what you would want for the rest of your life!??
I have learned that guys will do and say anything; even try to make a play of words of the Bible to convince you that it’s okay to have sex outside of marriage. But I’m here to tell you that it is not okay! Having sex before marriage destroys the inner you leaving you empty with no peace and joy, only that feeling of fulfillment at the time of climax.
You are a rare jewel, priceless! Don’t sell yourself short by being so available. Anything worth having is worth waiting for.
I use to think I had to have a man in my life. And I do! But there is only one man that I need in my life and that’s God. I use to feel like I couldn’t live unless I had a man in my life and I’m absolutely right; but it’s not a man that’s here on Earth! God is all I need! This doesn’t mean I don’t want my husband, because believe me I do! But I desire the husband that God desires for me to have. I want my soulmate to help push me forward in this calling on my life and me to help push his. With the two of us serving God side by side, hand in hand, showing others what He can do in the life of an individual, a marriage and in families giving all glory and honor to God.
Give yourself time to heal between relationships. If you don’t, you will continue to make the same mistakes. You have to give your heart and your emotions time to heal . And when God gives you that godly man in your life appreciate him, respect him, love him, honor him and cherish him. And men when God sends you that godly woman-your wife; love her, cherish her, respect her, appreciate her, take care of her and protect her.
Don’t be in a hurry to grow up, enjoy your childhood and grow closer to God as you grow older. I fully believe that if we honor God by keeping ourselves he will definitely honor us with the desires of our heart. We don’t have to be test driven because by honoring God I believe He will honor us and our marriage bed will be out of this world.
***Romans 12:2 ***1 Peter 4:3. ***1 John 2:15-17 *** 2 Timothy 4:3-4. ***Hebrew 13:4. ***1 Corinthians 3:16-17
True Love Will Wait!
Much Love to You All,