Singles Holiday Can Be More Than Lonely & Depressed

Hello my friends I’m sorry I haven’t written lately, but within the past two months it feels like my life has been turned upside down. I’ve had to come to the realization that things in life don’t always go as we planned and that healing doesn’t always come as we had planned. But God is still God, and he is in control and he’s got this!  

The holidays are here! Thanksgiving was just a few days ago and Christmas is just around the corner. This is a festive fun- filled time of the year; however for many it is a time of sadness, grief and loneliness. You see as the holidays approach us, there are many couples and families getting together for parties or social events. But there are many who are alone and may never be invited to such festive gatherings.

I know for me this time of the year brings back memories of when I was married or at least in a relationship. More so than any other time; during the holidays my heart longs to belong. It is during this time of the year that we have to be careful, for if we focus on what use to be and/or isolate ourselves; then we can easily drift into a state of severe depression. Been there and done that!

Spending time with love ones means more than any monetary gift; as money can not buy love! But many people may not have this opportunity or feel they don’t belong. With this being said, I’ve always dreamed of having a large home to open it up to those who need a family or a place where they belong. Even so that God gave me a vision and I have drawn it out and named it for just the time as He so chooses! But for now, God placed on my heart to invite single females to my small humble home every month for a potluck, conversation and a movie. Our first gathering was small but we had fun and December will be for single males and females  so we can have a Christmas party and a bonfire.

My heart is to help those; who like myself just need friends to do things with and to feel a sense of belonging.  If I were in the world still; then I would have all kinds of people to hang out with. But I am no longer in the world for I have been chosen and set apart by God. I want to live a life pleasing to God and be an example of a Godly woman for my daughter and others.

***Deuteronomy 14:2 “for you are a people holy to the Lord your God. Out of all the peoples on the face of the earth, the Lord has chosen you to be his treasured possession.”

***Deuteronomy 31:6”Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

***Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

I realize that some of my friends worked Thanksgiving day to keep their minds busy because they didn’t want to spend Thanksgiving without their spouse and children. This totally breaks my heart to know they were hurting inside and depressed. In my past I suffered from severe depression and anxiety and during the holidays it was the worst.

Being lonely and depressed is not the only thing that hurts during the holidays. So many people put such emphasis on what they get during Christmas that they forget to be thankful for the person who loves them and the heart in which it was given. Just like the widow in the Bible that gave her last mite; she gave with all her heart! That my friend is what counts, not the gift itself. A true gift is having the opportunity to share time with those you love; for this is priceless! We are never promised another tomorrow so be thankful for today! 

***Luke 21:1-4

***Mark 12:41-44

As the weeks pass before Christmas; take time to notice those around  you. Encourage someone, invite them in for coffee, dinner, to church or perhaps to a Christmas play or program. This is the season for us to remember the reason we celebrate Christmas. Step outside of your comfort zone and do something for another, but please don’t let it stop after the holidays. Not everyone has family or loved ones nearby and even if they do; the widow, the widower and the single person may still feel alone. Please craddle them in your prayers.

To my single friends, I encourage you to reach out to other singles in your church. Unite and become an army seeking God together while fulfilling the call that God has placed on you. Pastor Jim always says if you have a heartbeat then you have a purpose! It may be uncomfortable and most likely it will be as you step out into your calling. But stay focused on God and you will get through this holiday season and every season without depression overtaking you. 

Remember, we are never alone even when we feel like we are. God promised that he would never leave us or forsake us, so He is always with us! 

To God be all the glory, honor and praise!

Much love to you all!

Donna

 

 

 

Reality Check

As I sit and write tonight; I have so much on my mind. Forgive me for not being consistent in my writing; however I actually started this post a month ago. And this past month has been difficult for my family and myself with a long road ahead of us. Please keep us in your prayers. I know that God has it all in His Hands. Through it all, it is well!

Now lets get to this post of a reality check!

While driving to work recently my check engine light came on and I looked up into the sky. Upon looking up I saw this one little dark blob of something but couldn’t tell what it was. At that moment I was reminded of the shooting in Las Vegas and how Jesus is watching. He is coming back soon and we must check ourselves and make sure that we’re ready. Check engine – check your heart! Revelations is being played out before us! Evil is running rampant in the world. We must check our hearts and get them right so we don’t get left behind.

***Proverbs 13:24 – (ISV)
Whoever does not discipline his son hates him, but whoever loves him is diligent to correct him.

Driving home a few weeks ago on Friday afternoon I got stuck behind a school bus. I noticed that the kid in the back seat was either middle school or high school age. I think they were perhaps on the way to a ball game. But what happened after getting stopped at the stop light was so heartbreaking and it made me think of the phrase “spare the rod- spoil the child”. This kid gave me the middle finger by placing his hand behind the seat in front of the back window. He did so as if he was afraid he would get caught if he placed his hand up higher. Then he put his face in the glass, stuck his tongue out at me and appeared to be laughing. I just blew him a kiss and said God please forgive him for he knows not what he does.

This kid had never seen me before and it made me think why would he do this to a total stranger. Then on the following Sunday the shooting in Las Vegas happened. I was reminded of all the evil happening around us with all of the lawlessness.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 describes exactly what is going on right now.

***2 Timothy 3:1-5 (NLT) –The Dangers of the Last Days
You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!

Recently I’ve had someone approach me about my writings. It felt as if I was being criticized for writing my testimony in this blog. At least that is what I felt was happening but I think they were questioning my motives behind writing in both blogs. As I sit and think about the conversation we had; I can only think of the following answer. I wrote my testimony in this blog because God asked me to write it. I was not trying to promote me, but I was promoting God by telling the world where He brought me from. By sharing and writing my testimony it has not only given me a pure heart but has healed it as I have shared everything. I have nothing left to hide. It took a lot out of me to let people know the truth. No, I didn’t do it so God would love me because he already did. And I didn’t do it so that other people would love me, because that’s irrelevant. It doesn’t matter what people think of me or even if they like me; it only matters what God thinks and guess what… He loves me.  He said I was to die for.

But as I sit here tonight, I am thinking perhaps God was reminding me to do things for the right reason. Sometimes we have good ideas; but perhaps at the wrong time. When we step outside of Gods plan and try to do it our-self; we become overloaded and stressed. Hence, a reality check – check my heart. What’s the motive….. Approval of others or Gods plan? 

Someone said that I shouldn’t speak so much about the Holy Spirit because not everyone believes in the Holy Spirit. My response is this; I will not hide the Holy Spirit in anything that I do for it is by Him that I live and write. Ezekiel 36:26-27…. God has given me a new a heart and put a new spirit within me. You can’t hide what is within! 

God has brought me too far in my life to not be thankful. And never will I try to hide the Holy Spirit in a corner or a back room. He shall have free reign in my life and in all my writings. I have been changed from the inside out. God has healed me, delivered me, and set me free from many demonic forces that plagued my life. Today I am free, never wanting to be that old me again!

I have a new realization of who I am in Christ. I don’t have to be the person that I use to be. I don’t have to live the way I use too and I don’t have to allow people to treat me the way that I allowed them to treat me over the years. Do to my lack of self-esteem and lack of confidence in myself; for years I didn’t want to be seen. I felt like I was not as good as others because I didn’t have materialistic things like everyone else. I now know that materialistic things don’t matter because money can’t buy the most precious gifts. But praise God I have discovered that I have one thing that nobody can take away from me. And that is my salvation, my love for God and God’s love for me. He is all I need!

 As you have seen we are living in the last days. People are unloving, unholy, lovers of self, despisers of good, blasphemers, having a form of godliness but denying its power, etc.. From the Las Vegas shooting, to the more recent church shooting, to the kid on the school bus these are all signs of perilous times and men. And the fact that church folks feel we should deny the Holy Spirit freedom, is heart breaking. There are many confused by false doctrine. God tells us in 1 John 4:1 to test the spirits. He is watching just as I was reminded. Let’s check our hearts and make sure we are ready. We can’t straddle the fence; either we are for God or against Him! Which side are you on? 

To God Be All the Glory, Honor & Praise!

Much Love to You All!

Donna