Singles Holiday Can Be More Than Lonely & Depressed

Hello my friends I’m sorry I haven’t written lately, but within the past two months it feels like my life has been turned upside down. I’ve had to come to the realization that things in life don’t always go as we planned and that healing doesn’t always come as we had planned. But God is still God, and he is in control and he’s got this!  

The holidays are here! Thanksgiving was just a few days ago and Christmas is just around the corner. This is a festive fun- filled time of the year; however for many it is a time of sadness, grief and loneliness. You see as the holidays approach us, there are many couples and families getting together for parties or social events. But there are many who are alone and may never be invited to such festive gatherings.

I know for me this time of the year brings back memories of when I was married or at least in a relationship. More so than any other time; during the holidays my heart longs to belong. It is during this time of the year that we have to be careful, for if we focus on what use to be and/or isolate ourselves; then we can easily drift into a state of severe depression. Been there and done that!

Spending time with love ones means more than any monetary gift; as money can not buy love! But many people may not have this opportunity or feel they don’t belong. With this being said, I’ve always dreamed of having a large home to open it up to those who need a family or a place where they belong. Even so that God gave me a vision and I have drawn it out and named it for just the time as He so chooses! But for now, God placed on my heart to invite single females to my small humble home every month for a potluck, conversation and a movie. Our first gathering was small but we had fun and December will be for single males and females  so we can have a Christmas party and a bonfire.

My heart is to help those; who like myself just need friends to do things with and to feel a sense of belonging.  If I were in the world still; then I would have all kinds of people to hang out with. But I am no longer in the world for I have been chosen and set apart by God. I want to live a life pleasing to God and be an example of a Godly woman for my daughter and others.

***Deuteronomy 14:2 “for you are a people holy to the Lord your God. Out of all the peoples on the face of the earth, the Lord has chosen you to be his treasured possession.”

***Deuteronomy 31:6”Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

***Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

I realize that some of my friends worked Thanksgiving day to keep their minds busy because they didn’t want to spend Thanksgiving without their spouse and children. This totally breaks my heart to know they were hurting inside and depressed. In my past I suffered from severe depression and anxiety and during the holidays it was the worst.

Being lonely and depressed is not the only thing that hurts during the holidays. So many people put such emphasis on what they get during Christmas that they forget to be thankful for the person who loves them and the heart in which it was given. Just like the widow in the Bible that gave her last mite; she gave with all her heart! That my friend is what counts, not the gift itself. A true gift is having the opportunity to share time with those you love; for this is priceless! We are never promised another tomorrow so be thankful for today! 

***Luke 21:1-4

***Mark 12:41-44

As the weeks pass before Christmas; take time to notice those around  you. Encourage someone, invite them in for coffee, dinner, to church or perhaps to a Christmas play or program. This is the season for us to remember the reason we celebrate Christmas. Step outside of your comfort zone and do something for another, but please don’t let it stop after the holidays. Not everyone has family or loved ones nearby and even if they do; the widow, the widower and the single person may still feel alone. Please craddle them in your prayers.

To my single friends, I encourage you to reach out to other singles in your church. Unite and become an army seeking God together while fulfilling the call that God has placed on you. Pastor Jim always says if you have a heartbeat then you have a purpose! It may be uncomfortable and most likely it will be as you step out into your calling. But stay focused on God and you will get through this holiday season and every season without depression overtaking you. 

Remember, we are never alone even when we feel like we are. God promised that he would never leave us or forsake us, so He is always with us! 

To God be all the glory, honor and praise!

Much love to you all!

Donna

 

 

 

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