Growing Pains

A long read but well worth it!

Growing up can be difficult with many harsh lessons along the way especially if we don’t listen to our parents for they try to teach us. The same can happen as an adult when we grow and mature in Christ. Developing that deep relationship with God takes you places you never dreamed and will open your eyes to the ugly truths we dare to face or even want to admit. Our Heavenly Father loves us even as He is correcting us; however we must be teachable and willing to receive the correction. And believe me; this can be very painful! Some of those harsh truths about ourselves are hard to swallow. But when God calls you out on it; you know you better listen.

One of Samantha’s friends is planning to get married and Samantha is to be in the wedding. Therefore all of the young ladies that are in the wedding are to meet in a city about 3 hours from here to try on dresses. This day just happens to be on the same weekend of our ladies conference at church. So when she told me about this; immediately I said, “That’s the conference weekend we can’t go! Aren’t you suppose to dance? Isn’t there another weekend you all can do this?” Little did I realize that my not so baby girl was planning to spend the night there and mama wasn’t wanted on this trip.

You see she has never driven any long distance alone so I assumed that I was going to go with her. Afraid to let her go alone and drive this distance it was hard for this single mama bear to swallow. It’s tough when your baby doesn’t need or want you for everything anymore, especially when you have been the only constant in her life and she in yours. Little did I know, but we both had some growing up going on and God was about to get me straight.

     ***Philippians 4:13 (NKJV) I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Panic mode hit after I realized Samantha didn’t want me to go. She’s grown up and ready to spread her wings and fly, but gosh it hurt! All I could think of was she’s never driven this far before and that drive alone wasn’t good for her. I guess I was really trying to wiggle my way into this trip. I was upset with her and afraid at the same time over this. But after telling her I would feel better if a friend at least rode with her; she got a female friend to go and my precious daughter has already booked their room. Wow, she has really grown up and it seems like over night!

     ***Hebrews 11:6 (NKJV) But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes  to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.

     ***Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

A few weeks ago as I was sitting in a church service, before I knew Samantha’s friend was going with her, God spanked me good fashioned. It was a time of correction for me! I was thinking about this entire ordeal and was upset with her over it. But being mama bear I was mostly afraid something would happen if she went alone. Everything popped into my head from someone kidnapping her, to the car breaking down, to her getting lost, in a wreck or worse! Panic and fear had set in! But that Sunday morning in church God spoke to me and said, “Why do you not trust me?” “How do you expect to teach others to trust me when you don’t even trust me to take care of Samantha?” WOW!!  Just WOW!!  Talking about a revelation! That hit me like a ton of bricks!

I thought about what God said to me and He then reminded me that He gave His only Son for me. And that I don’t truly trust Him, if I can’t trust Him with my most prized earthly gift. After all, He gave me this precious gift and He has always taken care of us. He also reminded me that I pray for the safety of others all the time and that I can do the same for her. After reflecting on what God had said I had to repent to our Father and I had to ask Samantha to forgive me. Growing pains hurt but God is molding me as I grow in my relationship with Him.

All of this took place before summer break from school started; I got busy and didn’t think about it again until this past Sunday. As I was getting ready for church; God reminded me once again of this revelation of not trusting Him to protect Samantha. I tell her all the time that ALL things are possible to those who believe. And you know what, if I truly believe this then I should have no problem believing Gods got her and will protect her. After all she is His and He loves her more than me. So next weekend my not so little girl will take her first of many trips without her mama and guess what, she will be just fine! Gods got her and she is graced with divine favor and protection for she is a precious jewel in His eyes.

     ***Matthew 21:22 (NKJV) And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.

     ***Matthew 19:26 (NIV) Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

Growing pains hurt but they are much needed for us to mature as adults and as Gods Chosen Vessels. We are called so we must be willing to receive correction when and where it is needed. Sometimes we are blinded and can’t see those ugly truths about ourselves; and as painful as it was to face; I thank God that He called me out to correct me! My prayer is that He continues to mold me and shape me by calling me out on any other ugly truths that I am blinded to!

     ***1 John 2:3-6(KJV) And hereby we do know that we know him, if we keep his commandments. He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him. He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked.

    ***Romans 8:32 (AMP) He who did not spare {even} His own Son, but gave Him up for us all, how will He not also, along with Him, graciously give us all things?

     ***Isaiah 41:10 (NKJV) Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.

It’s hard to face the ugly truth about ourselves; but it is much needed for us and those around us for correction to be done. It’s impossible to teach what you aren’t living! May God guide you and bless you as you grow and mature. Mama’s and Daddy’s our baby girls and boys grow up and we must be willing to let go. God gave them to us to train them up to send them out, not to hold them in bondage and never let them go. They can’t make a life of their own and see how far they can fly if we don’t cut the strings. God has great plans for their lives and as tough as it is to see our babies leave the nest, if we hold too tight we might loose them forever. Let go and trust God for He will never fail us! His Word never returns void as He is faithful and His promises are always true!

I share all of this and my previous post with you because God ask me to. And in obedience my prayer is that it helps someone in their life and their walk with God. If just one soul can be saved then all the ugly stares and snickers behind my back will be so worth it all. I do it all for my Father to let you know that He can change a person & a life! If you need a change in your life today, ask Him to come into it and be Lord! I promise, it’s the best decision you will ever make!!

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To God Be All the Glory!

Much Love,


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